HARMONY BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE IS THE BASIS FOR EVERYTHING
By Yue Miyazaki (42 yrs.) from the Amagi Church in Japan
A blessing through our daughter's Mishirase
Shortly after I joined PL a minister told me that my relationship with my husband was "similar to a cracked tea bowl." We joined PL because our second daughter was diagnosed with a congenital metabolic abnormality. Because of this Mishirase my relationship with my husband changed a great deal and other things around us also changed completely.
We were told that our daughter had a protein metabolic abnormality shortly after she was born. We were shocked when we were told that the only treatment was to strictly control her diet and even at that she may have mental retardation.
This situation existed when my husband's older sister introduced me to PL. The church minister told me if I really wanted our daughter to be happy it was important that I have good harmony with my husband and also to do my best effort to deepen my faith.
I disliked my husband's drinking habit
During that time I was just enduring every day without expressing what I wanted to say to my husband and his parents. We were living with my husband's parents when we were first married and I felt as if I couldn't breathe because of his parents' constraints. Then when we had our second child, we moved to our own place but it was still close to his parents.
At that time I hated my husband's drinking. He is very quiet but has a very emotional personality, so when he drank he would easily get angry. I was afraid of my husband and I was living without saying anything to him. The church minister gave me a consultation saying that I should pray for my husband to enjoy his drinking and I shouldn't hate his drinking habit. He also told me to continue praying for my husband to join PL so that we could receive a Mioshie for our daughter's metabolic abnormality.
I went to a Rensei despite the opposition of my husband's parents
About ten month after joining PL I attended a New Members' Rensei despite the opposition of my husband and his parents. Not only did my husband's parents not want to baby-sit our children while I was away, but they also called my husband and told us, "If she attends this Rensei, we are going to sever our relationship with you."
However, my husband gradually started to understand my strong will and began to support me rather than his parents. I took our two daughters aged 4 and 1 to my own parents' place and attended the Rensei.
I understood my faults
I couldn't control my tears during the lectures at the Rensei, thinking about my husband's kindness in sending me there. Also, I keenly realised my mistakes of how I had been before I attended the Rensei, realising the importance of changing myself instead of blaming others. Upon gaining these insights my heart was filled with deep emotion.
When I returned home after the Rensei, my children who were supposed to be at my parents' place were with my husband's parents. My husband had picked them up from my parents. The most surprising thing though, was that my mother-in-law said, "The children were quiet and well-behaved the whole time." After this my relationship with my parents-in-law gradually improved.
Then, while he was driving under the influence of alcohol, my husband had a car accident. Fortunately there was damage only to the cars and no one was injured. He joined PL right after this accident and decreased his alcohol consumption. He then began drinking only for enjoyment. This was about a year after I joined PL.
When our second daughter was three years old and right after a Japanese children's celebration at the PL church, we received our long awaited Mioshie for our daughter. The content of the Mioshie taught me about my wrong thinking habit during my pregnancy, and our relationship as husband and wife. I have never forgotten my excitement at that time. I felt "From this time on we will become a true couple and also, our daughter will be saved."
My husband was admitted to hospital with water in his lungs
At the end of the same year that my husband joined PL he told me, "I have a pain in my lungs." He went to the hospital and it was discovered that he had water on the lungs.
I went to the church and received a consultation from the minister. He told me, " You had some problem with your husband before this occurred didn't you?" Well, my husband had asked me to do something a few days before his chest pain, however, I just gave him a half-hearted answer and didn't do it before the due date. He became very angry although he hadn't been angry like that for quite awhile.
My husband stayed home to convalesce, but the water on his lungs remained so he was admitted to the hospital. A few days later he was told the water should be removed by a syringe. I went to the church to receive an Oyashikiri Prayer. The minister told me, "Your husband is the one who got angry, but you were the one who caused his anger, so it's also your fault." I felt very sorry for what I had done.
At that moment I reflected on my shortcomings, not just for my husband's anger, but for the way I had behaved as his wife until then. While I was receiving the Oyashikiri Prayer for my husband to be quickly discharged from the hospital, I couldn't stop the tears from pouring down my face. At the same time I was apologising to God for the way I had treated him.
Then I went to the hospital to see him. He told me that the procedure for removing the water from his lungs by a syringe had been cancelled. His doctor told him, "You hardly have any water in your lungs because I couldn't remove very much by the syringe." I felt deep gratitude that my apology had reached God. A few days later he returned to work, after the doctor made sure everything was normal.
I was carefully following the diet that was recommended for our daughter's Mishirase. However, after I received a consultation guiding me to have a correct state of mind and while continuing to receive Oyashikiri Prayers, I changed her diet to a normal one. Then her condition somehow also changed to become normal.
She is now in high school she's healthy and doesn't have any more abnormalities.
Doing Misasage as a couple to Shingei with appreciation
My husband and I are trying to communicate well with each other to make sure that "the basis for everything we do" is as a couple. Our daughter who had this Mishirase and who was brought up watching our PL faith, requested on her own to go to the PL high school last year and is enjoying it.
If we didn't encounter PL, we wouldn't presently be having the happy family life that we have. We deeply appreciate the help from the ministers and PL members who guided us. We now have a firm decision to do Shingei Misasage to show our appreciation.
(Translated from the January 24, 2000, issue of Geisei-shimbun, p.5)
